WHY BREAKING UP IS SOMETIMES THE ONLY WAY OUT

Whether from a life partner, a good friend or loved things: letting go is difficult. Nevertheless, it is inevitable from time to time. "Health Tipsy" explains why breaking up is sometimes the only way to feel better.

At the beginning of our lives, ties are essential - a baby is helpless without its parents. The need for clinging is therefore so deeply anchored in us that it still accompanies us in later life: holding on is in our nature. We have to learn to let go first.

Fear of new

There are also rituals such as the festival before a move or a bachelor party. We make sure that our loved ones do not forget us. But sometimes we surround ourselves with people or things that don't do us good or harm us. For some, it is still a pain to dare to restart. This is great for others: around 20 percent of people genetically enjoy new things. We show what you can learn from them.

Separation from partner

On the one hand there are those that bounce from flower to flower. If there is a conflict, they quickly look for a new partner. Then there are the others. You hold on. The partner no longer shows them affection, he provokes a dispute or even cheats - but a separation is out of the question. At least not as long as there is hope that everything will be as wonderful as in the beginning. Or the pressure of suffering is not too strong ... But what many sufferers do not want to (see): Those who always put their own happiness behind the needs of the partner only harm themselves.

Escapes are often excessive consumption, binge eating, or alcohol. But even they cannot satisfy in the long run. They only make you feel more uncomfortable in your own skin. Anyone who finds themselves feeling restless, insomnia, or persistent depression should definitely draw up a relationship balance. Be honest! What comes on the plus side and what on the minus side? If the negative points predominate and the thought of the partner makes you sad - then it is high time for a change!

Now there are only two ways: Either you get the partner to permanently change something in his behavior. Or: You take the step to freedom. Because it may be difficult to be alone for a while or to come to terms with the search for accommodation and the new financial situation, one thing becomes clear to you after the first grief: A partnership should mean much more than grief and suffering for both sides.

Bye, dear friend!

How many friends do you have Studies by friendship researcher Wolfgang Krüger show that we usually only have three best friends. Then there are twelve that he calls average friendships. The rest are acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors. But you don't want any trouble with them either. And in contrast to the family, we choose friends and acquaintances ourselves. Nobody is forcing us.

If we get involved, friendships are binding. You support yourself, help yourself, have fun. The relationship is balanced at best. If this tilts to one side, for example, one always demands more than the other is willing to give, or one acts as a determiner of each activity, then one should put friendship to the test. Is she still doing me good? Studies show that distance helps here. Maybe you can see how much the girlfriend (with her quirks) is missing? Perhaps you will go your separate ways in the long run? Let your heart speak.

Cleaning up frees

"Farewell" can not only be said to people. Even unworn clothes or unused items should be waved behind more often. But be careful! When it comes to separating things, feelings play a role that should not be underestimated. There is the girlfriend's holiday gift - what should she think when it is no longer on the shelf? The sweater that he liked so much on the first date - actually it has long been too tight…

Useless things that fill cupboards strain us. You narrow. Experts agree, however, that a quick-action campaign in which everything is blown out does not make sense. It is much better to separate consciously. Tip: For the beginning of a week, throw away one thing every day that you haven't used for a long time. If it is still in use, it can be given away or sold!

New job, new happiness

If you turn your hobby into a job, you never have to work a day again - that's a truism! Because very few are always happy at work. It is nevertheless interesting that as many as 70 percent of Germans are dissatisfied with their work. Only a fraction of the job changes at the same time. Finances, circumstances - there are many reasons. And a rule of thumb that can help you with your own satisfaction check: If you don't feel like working twice a week, you should change something for your own health.

Incidentally, it doesn't matter whether you don't feel respected by the boss or have problems with your colleagues. In this situation, experts recommend that everyone deal intensively with their own application documents and bring everything up to date. If there is a chance, there will be one less excuse!